The most vibrant sunshine and warmth of our lives.
Compassionate, creative, and curious, Jen knew how to live in the present and savor every moment. Spontaneity was her guide, sending her on far-reaching journeys to different states, to the ocean, to music festivals and the great outdoors. It also inspired her to pick up a variety of creative hobbies. She particularly enjoyed jewelry-making but had a special touch that made everything from gift-wrapping to window-decorating beautiful. Jen found happiness in the simple things in life. Even as a child, her mother Gwen remembered Jen waking in her crib with a huge smile, ready to greet the day. Jen freely shared this joy with everyone she met. Whether it was through a warm hug, a compassionate word, or just her gentle presence, Jen was endlessly generous with her love, especially towards those who were often overlooked.
“Jen carried a light within her that illuminated every room she entered,” Gwen said. “She loved people exactly as they were, no matter their appearance, life story, or status. She made sure they felt seen and wanted. Jen saw people’s hearts.”
Jen also had a serious, contemplative side. This was seen in her dedication to her Jewish faith and her pride in blowing the shofar for the High Holiday celebrations. Her family and her congregation carry fond memories of Jen, petite and young with strawberry blond hair, blowing the ram’s horn with remarkable power and precision.
Jen lived with substance use disorder for seventeen years. She became more withdrawn and isolated when her symptoms recurred. During a period of recovery in her early thirties, Jen began making plans for her future: eating well, exercising, and researching careers that aligned with her interests. She became a part-time owner of Eagle Street Music, where she loved interacting with children who took lessons there. Later, she began contemplating a career in social work, specifically working as a drug counselor. She spoke often about her desire to become a mother someday, too. Gwen’s last memories of Jen are of her smile and pride as she celebrated her nephew’s graduation. Her parents, Gwen and Guy, and siblings, Rebbecca, Sarah, and Joshua, carry her in their hearts and miss her very much.
“Jennifer had immense love and support from friends and family, but the decisions were hers alone,” Gwen said. “It has left me feeling helpless. I also feel anger toward those who treated her unkindly, because Jennifer was always gentle, loving, and compassionate. It makes me want to reach people living with substance use disorder and help them understand the ripple effects of loss, while also offering compassion and understanding through sharing our story.”
Jen’s mother, Gwendolyn Cariddi, and sisters, Rebbecca and Sarah Cohen, provided the information for this narrative.
May 17, 1984-July 1, 2023-Age 39
Portrait Artist: Shawn Faust
Narrative Writer: Angela Day
