A shooting star extinguished prematurely
Nikki’s mother, Debra, described her as a “shining star” delightful, compassionate, beautiful, and clever, with an outstanding sense of humor. She had a smile that lit up a room. She loved her children—Alexis, Madison, and Maxx—more than anything. They were her pride and joy. She also adored her grandparents and stayed close to them. During COVID, she visited their nursing home and stood outside their window so they could see her. That meant a great deal to them.
Nikki liked to help people whenever she could. If someone needed a ride, a haircut, clothes, a meal, or simply someone to listen, she stepped in. For the last five years of her life, she was deeply involved in the recovery community. She attended meetings faithfully and supported others who were trying to stay sober. Her final recovery was strong, and her family truly believed she had made it. After Nikki passed away, her recovery group held a special meeting to commemorate her life. Hundreds of people attended and shared how she had helped them.
Nikki trained in cosmetology and loved making people look and feel better. She worked at Great Clips and due to her natural leadership and people skills, was quickly promoted to manager. Later, she worked in finance at a bank and, within a year, moved into a management and training role. She was skilled, capable, and respected wherever she worked. She kept an immaculate home and made do with what she had. She would share anything she had with someone in need.
In high school, Nikki ran track and sang her heart out, choosing songs to dedicate to family and friends. She loved holidays. Her Christmas tree was always up by Thanksgiving evening, and during her recovery years she took great joy in gathering family and friends and taking photos of them.
Nikki lived with addiction on and off from the age of 15. When she was in active addiction, she became isolated and depressed. Even then, she continued to work and provide for her children. Her disease changed her, but it never erased her thoughtfulness.
She had one brother, Michael Patrick Sloan, who was a year and a half younger. He died of an overdose a year and a half after Nikki. Losing both children has been a devastating loss for Debra.
Nikki’s life also changed her mother’s life. Wanting better for her children, Debra entered recovery and became a substance use disorder (SUD) counselor and later a teacher of SUD professionals. After losing both Nikki and Michael, she returned to counseling, guided by her children, and continues the work of offering hope to individuals and families affected by addiction.
Nikki is remembered as compassionate, generous, clever, loving, and creative. She was devoted to her children and to helping others find their way in recovery. Nikki is deeply missed.
Nikki’s mother, Debra Murray, provided the information for this narrative.
December 14, 1978–April 13, 2021-Age 42
Portrait Artist: Jeremy Hebbel
Narrative Writer: Barbara Francois
