Loving, funny, generous, loyal, charismatic
Rory was a middle child between his sisters, Hilary and Kimberly. The siblings were two years apart from each other and best of friends. He was witty, caring, loyal, and loving. His infectious laugh filled the room, his smile glowed, and he had a heart of gold, often putting others before himself. He loved magic, was a jokester, and loved using specific expressions which became “Roryisms” to everyone who knew and loved him.
When Rory was five, he decided he didn’t like his name and wanted to be called Matt. His mom obliged his wishes and after a day of calling him Matt, he cried and said, “My name is Rory! Did you forget my name?” That was the end of the Matt days.
Rory loved celebrating December holidays with his family because he not only got gifts for both Christmas and Chanukah but also for his birthday. He worked for a heavy construction union company and later in a social room dealing cards. He wanted to become a card dealer at the Hard Rock Hotel. His favorite game was Texas hold ‘em.
When Rory was in active addiction, he became depressed and anxious. He told his mom, “The struggle is real.” The most difficult part of his addiction for her and the family was the “inability to change or “fix” someone that you love so much,” his mom said.
Cindy now takes every opportunity to tell their story. “To help one is to help many, it’s a ripple effect,” she stated. “When I share Rory’s story, other people feel the courage to share theirs and feel less isolated and alone.” She has put purpose to her pain and started a nonprofit with a friend whose son suffers from substance use disorder. It is called Our2Sons. The two “moms on a mission” raise money to help people in early recovery with basic needs such as rent for sober living space, food, and transportation. They also connect families to services and lend an empathetic ear. Cindy said, “I miss my son every moment of every day, his smile, his infectious laugh, and especially his love.”
Rory’s mother, Cindy Singer, provided the information for this narrative.
December 19, 1986-October 28, 2015
Age 28-Lived with the disease of addiction 13 years.