Live with no regrets
Ryan’s love for life was evident in his spirit, his loving heart, and his ability to connect with people from all walks of life. His genuine interest in others’ stories and experiences drew people to him, and his unwavering support and encouragement touched countless lives. Even on his darkest days, Ryan’s warm smile could light up a room. He often looked at maps and thought about all the places he could go. It was no surprise that he aspired to go into the hospitality industry managing a large hotel in a big city.
Growing up, Ryan was a confident and strong-willed individual with a passion for cooking, Iowa State games, and family time. His family was his rock, and he cherished every moment spent with them. He and his dad, Tom, created many fond memories over their common love of tractor pulling. “Even though it was not said, Ryan thought the world of his brothers, Nick, and Wes and his sister-in-law, Hannah,” his mother, Rachel, stated. He talked with Wes about making good decisions to avoid mistakes that would keep him from reaching his full potential. Ryan also had strong bonds with all his first cousins rejoicing in their accomplishments. He was a devoted uncle, brother, nephew, friend, cousin, and son, always willing to lend a helping hand or offer a listening ear. His love for his nephew, Brooks, was especially remarkable, and he took immense pride in being a positive influence in his life.
Ryan’s life took a challenging turn as he struggled with anxiety, which eventually led to drug addiction. Despite his determination to overcome his struggles, the disease had a strong hold on him. His family and loved ones watched as he became a different person, doing and saying things out of character. The strain on his family was immense, and the pain of watching him struggle was overwhelming. Still, his tenacity and courage inspired those who knew him. “It was so difficult knowing that he wanted help and not being able to find it. On many occasions, we would call clinics or therapists and would be told he could be seen in 6-10 weeks,” his mother stated. “That doesn’t work for people with substance use disorder.”
In eulogizing Ryan, his brother Nick said, “Addiction is an illness. I fully believe that after watching Ryan go through it.” Despite the challenges he faced, Ryan’s spirit and optimism continued to inspire those around him. His cousin, Tara, remembered his ability to be the light in any room, taking joy in seeing others succeed and sharing excitement with those he loved most. She encouraged others to “go forth and be each other’s biggest fans, even during our darkest days,” on Ryan’s behalf.
In the end, Ryan’s story teaches us to approach addiction with compassion and understanding. His memory will be a blessing to all who were fortunate enough to have him in their lives.
It’s a testament to the devastating impact the disease of addiction can have on individuals and families, but also to the power of love, support, and resilience.
Ryan’s mother, Rachel Quinlan, provided the information for this narrative.
November 19, 1989-July 21, 2017-Age 27
Portrait Artist: Elizabeth Jones
Narrative Writer: Barbara Francois
