Legendary, graceful, resilient, authentic, loving
Described by her daughters as spunky, beautiful, outspoken, stylish, and the life of the party, Sheila was an extraordinary woman. She continuously catered to the needs of her family, playing a crucial role in the lives of her three girls, Shalyn, now 30, Shandal, 33 and Nysheka, 43. “She always spoke of a mother’s love being the greatest of all,” Shalyn stated.
An exceptional cook, Sheila’s daughters marveled at how their mom could prepare a meal in a matter of minutes, when it took them at least an hour. They have wonderful memories of the aroma of their favorite foods filling the house.
Sheila was passionate about her family, and there are a lot of family members! She had 12 siblings and numerous extended family members. To know Sheila was to love her. She had a way about her that drew everyone to her. When she became active in ministry, she testified to the goodness of God and shared that testimony with the hope that lives would be changed.
Sheila’s main focus in life, after retiring from her mental health career, was to take care of her daughters and ensure their success. She helped many people in her lifetime. Her daughters cherish a special memory from her funeral service. “Our entire family experienced restoration and one young lady gave up drugs to be free from addiction and rededicate her life to Christ,” Shalyn said. “The impact of Sheila’s life influenced us all on that day and continues to do so.”
There were times when Sheila’s 40-year addiction made her feel inadequate and discouraged. Her children experienced the pain of seeing their mom in endless cycles. The daughters’ lives were greatly impacted. “But no matter what, she was always enough for us,” her daughters agreed. They miss her hugs, laugh, and especially her voice.
There were negative and positive effects of watching their mother experience this horrible disease. They gained a deep understanding and compassion for all people, everywhere with substance use disorder. Sheila’s daughters are now advocates for those with substance use disorder and have started a non-profit in honor of their mother.
Sheila’s daughter, Shalyn Patrick, provided the information for this narrative.
January 1, 1963-April 5, 2021-Age 58
Portrait Artist: Shawn Faust
Narrative Writer: Barbara Francois
